Let’s see now, I’m guessing a lot of people especially guys
will be offended by this. So here’s a disclaimer for clarification.
Disclaimer: The below
written material does not apply to all the men or boys. So please don’t get
offended. It is neither intended to cause harm nor any offence.
It all starts one fine day..., actually, many a fine days,
or rainy days, or sunny days, in fact any sort of day. Imagine a girl going to
college from her hostel, both the gates of her hostel and her college campus hardly
10 meters apart. I might commend here the college for its brilliant thinking in
making such an arrangement, so as to minimize the danger; a young college girl
might face in the outside world. Of course I am not mentioning the prison-like
rules followed in the said college which surprisingly apply only to the girls
not the boys of the college. Brilliant, right?! I mean why would girls even
want to step out of their hostels (Imagine that!) while of course, boys need to
have this freedom. Why, you ask? Well as my college would answer, ‘because they
are boys, and we are girls’! Of course, that fundamentally justifies that
question. And if you are still not satisfied and continue to insist on
receiving answers, fair warning well heeded my friend, they hand out
suspensions here for free and with alarming regularity.
Anyhow, this is not my point. Where was I now? Yes, one day
(the nature of which has already been clarified before), this girl feeling very
secure and content in the military security provided for girls in the college
went about her classes. Unfortunately she dared to commit a cardinal sin.
Horrors! She walked alone in the campus. What could be a greater sin? As it
was, it happened. Walking up a crowded stairs to her next class, all she could
do was keep a stony face and walk away. Why? Well, don’t you know? Certain boys
in that college felt the need to call out to her, make crude comments bordering
on vulgarity, sing songs bordering on the uncouth, obscene and distasteful and
insist on keeping a one- sided conversation. The cause of which we might never
know. Let’s discuss a few plausible reasons. One, have they been so deprived of
the company of the opposite gender, that this is a last resort to get any sort
of attention from them? Two, it’s often that a man’s insecurity about his own,
ahem, sexuality, or lack thereof, projects out as a social disorder, inclined
towards exhibiting it as a social inability to behave as the society requires.
(I vote for this reason, as the main cause!). Third, they are uneducated,
illiterate animals who simply know no better (But honestly, they are studying
in a college after all, so this is not possible.) Fourth, well, quite frankly I
can go on degrading and insulting this general class of filth but let’s leave
all that to your imaginations.
Now, you, as a person reading this might raise certain issues about the
morality of the girl, for example, the way she was dressed. Thankfully, by our
University norms on dress code, it’s quite impossible to do so- formal Indian
clothes (churidars, suits) with a dupatta pinned to your shoulders. After being
covered from head to toe in cloth, the question of improper or provoking dress
code is out. I am going to deviate here and mention, no matter how a girl is
dressed, she is not asking for it, be it a short dress or a Burkha. She’s not
asking for it unless she’s standing in the middle of the road, stark naked,
screaming, ‘Rape me, rape me or insult me, insult me’.
Coming back to where we left off,
what other possible reasons could you raise justifying this behavior?
This is just one of the few, real incidents that happen here
every day in this college and others, a few of the lesser evils, rather. Girls
here are continuous victims of eve teasing and up to certain extents, of sexual
harassment. And don’t you dare tell me that boys will be boys, or it’s just a
bit of fun they had. In that case, I will be forced to call your definition of
fun at the expense of insulting the opposite gender, as perverted and twisted.
It is morally degrading for a girl to be repeatedly cat-called and teased.
Forget the moral aspects; it’s about decency and upbringing. To all these filth
out there, your mother, your sister must be so proud indeed, to have a son who
doesn’t respect them. Fun fact- did you know under Section 294- Singing, reciting or uttering any obscene song, ballad or words, in or near any public place, (https://aamjanata.com/eve-teasing-under-criminal-law/) is punishable with imprisonment or fine, or both. (To all those men getting offended, please read the disclaimer at the beginning). Above all, this
happening in an institution of education, where they are supposed to be
educated and develop as professionals, irony, that it’s more like developing
into professional, male chauvinistic pigs. My intentions in writing this was to make people
aware, in my college especially so, that despite all the precautions they take,
these precautions referring to restricting the girls more and more (because
apparently, girls are supposed to be docile, not go out and have fun and stay
jailed), is hardly having any affect. In fact, it is only succeeding in
suppressing the basic rights of the girl. Do you realise, that after completion
they will have to go out into the world? Let’s see how that will go, a girl
restricted inside a campus gets placed in a metro city. But, wait for it,
here’s the showstopper, she is so freaking afraid to step out of where she
lives, because well, for four years that’s what she has been taught,
restriction! Instead of developing us as individuals this practice is simply
suppressing us. This is just pertaining to the how girls are treated and looked
upon by the authorities. They will not speak out, unless you listen! So listen,
please.
My other, slightly misguided perhaps, intention, was solely
for the benefit of those disgusting boys out there who are the truest form of
illiteracy. I hope I have hit a nerve or two, or maybe (preferable so!) all of
them. You are, simply put, disgusting creatures, insecure in whom they are and
lack any basic social skills. If you think, it is cool to go and behave like
that, then think again. No girl out there will ever respect you.
I was going to thank the men out there who know how to
behave decently, but guess what?! I realized I am writing this to simply bring
out the truth, not to satisfy anyone’s ego. I refuse to feel obliged to thank
men for behaving like humans. If you do, then well, good for you! You are a
human, nothing less or else, is expected.
Disclaimer: The above article was not written to intentionally hurt someone. Any offence caused is well, honestly, not regretted. If you have any comments, suggestions, any discord of opinions, then kindly do not spam or leave disruptive comments. Just mail me all your hate mail, if you have any, and if you don't receive a reply, well, you probably know why. Anyway, cheers!
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